Today, I was planning to get married with my girlfriend in Japan since I heard it can be done a day in Japan. I’ll talk more about marriage in Japan another time. As for this post, I wanted to express my anger towards the Chinese Embassy in Tokyo, let alone China. I’m ABC and my girlfriend’s Chinese, but she was raised in Japan since middle school. She has permanent resident status here in Japan. So to sum it up, it’s an American marrying a permanent resident in Japan. I say this because this situation is different from the normal American marrying a Japanese national or two foreigners marrying in Japan.
Anyway, we had to go to the Chinese Embassy because my girlfriend had to get a document that says she’s single and isn’t married. So we go in, and my girlfriend talks to the lady at the counter. This lady’s a bitch by the way. I only started learning Mandarin like 2 years ago so I can understand some Chinese. She asked my girlfriend like 3 times if she’s married before. My girlfriend answers, no I haven’t been married before 3 times. Then the lady asks if she has kids like 3 times. My girlfriend answers no 3 times. It’s as if this lady doesn’t believe my girlfriend. Regardless, answering 1 time is enough. By then my girlfriend’s already irritated. Anyway, we went to sit down for now as we had to wait for the lady to do some paperwork. She calls us to come up again, but I decide to stay and watch our belongings. The lady tells me to come up too. I’m like ok, but why? I’m not the one that needs any documents from you. My girlfriend does. Anyway, so I go up. The lady asks for my passport and so I give her my passport. She says: “Oh, you have an American passport?” I reply: “Yes, I do.” In my head, I’m like I have an American passport because I’m American. You think I’m Chinese like you? Although I’m technically Chinese, but ONLY by ethnicity and not by nationality! Anyway, the lady says: “Oh ok, never mind then. You can sit back down.” In my head, I’m like WTF? Why’d you call me up in the first place? Fkn b***h clearly made a mistake. She could of at least said sorry, but instead she gave me that attitude. Bulls**t. Okay so back to why we came here in the first place. We were told we need to come back a second time to pick up the document. So me and my girlfriend left and started talking about how stupid and rude China is.
Now, we had to go to the American Embassy in Tokyo which was like a 30 minute walk away. I also had to get a document called declared I’m single and can marry. This document had to be notarized and only took like 15 minutes. The place was legit and the lady helping me was the best. She also helped me add pages to my passport as I was running out. Be sure to bring a letterpack 500 envelope so they can ship your passport to you when they’re done, otherwise you’ll have to go again and pick it up. We even had some small chit chat while she was helping me. I was actually treated like a human here, unlike at the Chinese embassy. Comparing the Chinese Embassy to the American Embassy is like comparing a hostel to a 5-star hotel. You get the picture.
So after being treated so rude by that Chinese lady at the Chinese Embassy, it got me thinking, why? I mean, I would understand if it was in China. But we’re in Japan. That lady most likely has been living in Japan for a few years. She most likely knows how to speak Japanese. So she’s probably accustomed to the way of life in Japan. In other words, she should know what the difference is between nice and rude because the Japanese people are usually super nice. They say “welcome” when I enter the shop, “please wait” if they need me to wait, and “Thank you for coming” when I leave. As your surroundings change (from rude China to polite Japan), you naturally adapt to survive. But clearly this b**** hasn’t. But then it also got me thinking, wait, there’s a lot of Chinese owned and run restaurants in Japan. I’ve been to quite a few of them, and they treat me with respect, they treat me like a human-being. So why can’t the Chinese Embassy do that too? It was then that I realized, that most of the customers who go to eat at the Chinese restaurant are Japanese. The people who go to the Chinese Embassy in Tokyo are mostly Chinese. Did a light bulb just light up? Well, that’s my theory as to why that b**** was so rude.
Anyway, that’s enough of my rant. Good day.